This is the thing: When you hit 28 or 30, everything begins to
divide. You can see very clearly two kinds of people. On one side,
people who have used their 20s to learn and grow, to find … themselves
and their dreams, people who know what works and what doesn’t, who have
pushed through to become real live adults. Then there’s the other
kind, who are hanging onto college, or high school even, with all their
might. They’ve stayed in jobs they hate, because they’re too scared to
get another one. They’ve stayed with men or women who are good but not
great, because they don’t want to be lonely. … they mean to develop
intimate friendships, they mean to stop drinking like life is one big
frat party. But they don’t do those things, so they live in an extended
adolescence, no closer to adulthood than when they graduated.
Don’t be like that. Don’t get stuck. Move, travel, take a class, take
a risk. There is a season for wildness and a season for settledness,
and this is neither. This season is about becoming. Don’t lose yourself
at happy hour, but don’t lose yourself on the corporate ladder either.
Stop every once in a while and go out to coffee or climb in bed with
your journal.
Ask yourself some good questions like: “Am I proud of the life I’m
living? What have I tried this month? … Do the people I’m spending time
with give me life, or make me feel small? Is there any brokenness in my
life that’s keeping me from moving forward?”
Now is your time. Walk closely with people you love, and with people
who believe … life is a grand adventure. Don’t get stuck in the past,
and don’t try to fast-forward yourself into a future you haven’t yet
earned. Give today all the love and intensity and courage you can, and
keep traveling honestly along life’s path.
— Relevant magazine(I am Blessed via Meg)
lovely!
ReplyDeleteIt's so poignant isn't it?
Deletevery nice, thank you for sharing. It is true that some people, when they leave school and there's nobody to "push" them in various kind of changes anymore, they stop developping their skills, following their dreams, moving forward to become who they always imagined they'd like to be in the future...
ReplyDeleteI agree. It's so important to be self aware but so often it seems like the ‘uncool’ or ‘unpopular’ thing to do. Who we are right now, the choices we make, the places we go and the people we associate with shape who we will be and how we will live in the future. Daring to grow and learn is so courageous and important I think. Thank you for commenting. X
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